Most people fear to feel their own pain. Someone close to me once said: 'I know if I cry now I might never be able to stop.' They are frightened that once they start feeling they will fall apart. Usually, these fears begin in childhood or even earlier at a time when the child didn't get the support it needed. It is common for children to be told to 'just get over it' which is the moment all the walls around the heart come up. These protections remain until every time something happens it will get triggered and the walls become even stronger. All the voices, all the noise inside our minds are simply a way to not feel all that stored up the pain. For most people that mental chatter never seems to stop. It's always talking without many breaks.
Anxiety is a sign that something is not quite right and that your attention is needed. It's certainly not a pleasant feeling but it is letting you know that something is wrong and to do something about it. Once we begin to pay attention to feelings and start to trust that we can handle our emotional experiences, the constant chatter will slow down and intrusive thoughts begin to diminish. This constant inner chatter is useless; there really is no reason to figure everything out. Our problems are caused by our minds' constant chatter. Problems are hardly ever what they appear to be. We try to change our lives, situations, jobs – anything on the outside instead of realising that we all have something inside us that is capable of having a problem with just about anything. And this we can change!