Self-care is highly individual, because each person has to decide on an action. Self-care involves making a choice. Activities that make a positive difference to our well-being can be considered as self-care. Many people do not facilitate their desires, as we are often taught not to be "selfish" or "self-absorbed". However, looking after your own emotional well- being benefits everybody around you.
If you are desperate for more time, there is a good chance that you are not looking after yourself. There is no need to go over the top and sign up for a four week silent retreat, or buying a full-time gym membership. Starting with just one pleasant activity will do, even if it is just reading a magazine or doing a crossword undisturbed. It doesn’t have to be an expensive exercise; just take the dog out, talk with a friend, have a cup of tea…It is not selfish!!
This is especially important for parents. Yes, it is wonderful to spend time with children, but it is good for children to see that their parents have hobbies and that they are relaxed and at ease.
Self-care also means saying ‘no’ when you’d rather do something else. This might be seen as "selfish", but is not, as you have to look after your energy. Having therapy and taking charge of your life is a good way of looking after yourself and your self-care. Being anxious, tense and stressed and reaching out for therapy helps you to gain control over your life.